Ending Domestic Violence: Support and Treatment at Mend Psychology in Calgary
Domestic violence is a devastating issue that affects individuals across Calgary, Alberta, and globally. It is a pattern of abusive behavior in relationships used to gain or maintain control or dominance over an intimate partner. While it is commonly associated with physical abuse, domestic violence can take many forms, including emotional, psychological, sexual, and financial abuse. At Mend Psychology, our psychologists are committed to helping individuals affected by domestic violence through therapy and support to heal and regain control of their lives. We are also experienced and committed to working with individuals that have engaged in domestic violence and believe it is possible that with commitment and accountability to move away from harmful patterns.
The Impact of Domestic Violence
Domestic violence takes a serious physical, emotional and psychological toll. According to the Canadian Women’s Foundation, approximately one in three women in Canada will experience physical or sexual violence at some point in their lifetime, and one in four men report experiencing physical abuse. This highlights the widespread nature of domestic violence across gender lines. Individuals who experience domestic violence often struggle with depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and other mental health issues. The fear, isolation, and manipulation that accompany abusive relationships can leave lasting scars on victims, impacting their emotional well-being long after they leave the abusive situation.
In Calgary and across Alberta, domestic violence is a serious public health issue. Statistics Canada reports that over 80% of victims of spousal violence are women, but men are also significantly affected by intimate partner violence. Domestic violence crosses all socio-economic, cultural, and geographic boundaries, making it a pervasive issue requiring systemic attention. Unfortunately, many individuals suffer in silence due to fear, shame, or lack of resources. The good news is that help is available, and individuals can begin healing with the right support and treatment.
Characteristic Domestic Violence vs. Situational Domestic Violence
It’s important to recognize that not all instances of domestic violence are the same. Domestic violence can be categorized into two types: characteristic domestic violence and situational domestic violence. Understanding the difference between the two can help individuals and healthcare professionals better address the needs of victims and tailor interventions for effective treatment.
Characteristic Domestic Violence: This type of abuse is part of a longstanding pattern of controlling and manipulative behavior in the relationship. The abuser uses violence, intimidation, and emotional manipulation as a way to assert dominance and control over their partner. It’s often rooted in power imbalances and is typically characterized by a consistent cycle of abuse, followed by periods of reconciliation or “honeymoon phases.” Characteristic domestic violence tends to escalate over time and can involve physical, emotional, sexual, and financial abuse.
Situational Domestic Violence: Unlike characteristic domestic violence, situational violence often occurs in response to high-stress situations or arguments, rather than as part of a controlling pattern. In these cases, violence may occur during an intense moment of anger or frustration but doesn’t necessarily involve an ongoing pattern of coercion or control. Situational violence is still harmful and traumatic; it may not escalate in the same way as characteristic domestic violence. However, it should not be minimised and it is important to address the emotional and psychological damage it causes to both the victim and the perpetrator.
Recognizing the Signs of Domestic Violence
Recognizing domestic violence can be challenging, as it often involves a combination of physical, emotional, and psychological abuse. Here are some common signs:
Physical Abuse: Unexplained injuries, bruises, or cuts, often in areas that are commonly hidden by clothing.
Emotional and Psychological Abuse: Constant criticism, threats, humiliation, or manipulation aimed at diminishing self-worth.
Sexual Abuse: Coercion or force into sexual activities without consent.
Financial Abuse: Controlling access to money, preventing the partner from working, or financially exploiting them.
Domestic violence doesn’t just affect the victim—it can have a long-lasting impact on children and other family members. Studies show that children exposed to domestic violence are at a higher risk of developing mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, and behavioral disorders. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence in Calgary, seeking help from a psychologist or therapist can be the first step toward healing.
The Psychological Effects of Domestic Violence
Victims of domestic violence often experience severe psychological consequences, including:
Depression: Studies indicate that 40-60% of individuals who experience domestic violence also suffer from depression, which can worsen the effects of the abuse.
Anxiety: Anxiety disorders, particularly generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), are common among victims of domestic violence. The constant fear and hypervigilance associated with living in an abusive environment significantly increase the risk of developing these disorders.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD): Victims of domestic violence are at high risk for PTSD, with one study showing that approximately 50% of women who experience intimate partner violence report symptoms of PTSD. This can cause flashbacks, nightmares, and intense emotional distress.
Low Self-Esteem: Abusive relationships often lead to feelings of inadequacy, shame, and a lack of self-worth. This may result in difficulties in future relationships and a tendency to stay in unhealthy situations.
Mistrust: Emotional scars from abuse can make it hard for victims to trust others, even in new relationships.
In our Calgary mental health clinic, our psychologists specialize in addressing these psychological effects, helping victims of domestic violence rebuild their self-esteem, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and work through trauma with compassion and understanding.
Therapy and Treatment for Domestic Violence Survivors
Treatment for survivors of domestic violence often requires a multifaceted approach that includes both psychological therapy and practical support. At Mend Psychology, we offer a range of therapies that can help individuals recover from the emotional and psychological damage of abuse.
Trauma-Informed Therapy: This approach takes into account the pervasive effects of trauma and helps survivors process and heal from their experiences in a safe and supportive environment.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): CBT can help individuals identify and challenge negative thought patterns that were formed during their abusive relationship and replace them with healthier, more adaptive ways of thinking.
Safety Planning: For individuals still in abusive situations, we assist with creating a safety plan to help them safely exit the relationship and access necessary support.
Resources: We can help you connect with local resources that help you find the supports you need.
Supporting Domestic Violence Survivors in Calgary
At Mend Psychology we understand the immense strength it takes to leave an abusive situation, and we are here to offer the therapy and support needed to heal. We are committed to helping survivors of domestic violence in Calgary regain their sense of self-worth, rebuild their lives, and develop healthier relationships in the future. Similarly, we recognise the bravery required to acknowledge harmful patterns and commit to making meaningful change towards non-violence.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, don’t hesitate to reach out for help. You deserve to live a life free from abuse, and there are professionals ready to help guide you through the healing process.
Conclusion
Domestic violence is a grave issue that can have lasting effects on mental health. According to the Canadian Women’s Foundation, over 50% of women who experience domestic violence report long-term emotional and psychological issues, such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD. You’re not alone and we are here to help you heal from harmful relationships.